Book 2
41. Since one particularly good way of winning people over is by giving them good advice, prudence and justice are desirable in every situation. Indeed, this is just what most people are looking for: they want to place their confidence in someone who possesses these virtues, for they know that he is in a position to give useful and reliable advice to anyone desiring it. Who is likely to entrust himself to someone whose wisdom, so far as he can see, is no greater than his own, when he is the one wanting the advice? It is essential that the person from whom the advice is being sought is abler than the person who is doing the seeking! What would be the point in consulting a man if you thought he was incapable of seeing into something any better than you could understand it yourself?
42. Now if you find a person who shows a lively intellect and a real strength of mind and authority—someone who is, in addition, well–qualified to help you by virtue of his practical experience, capable of delivering you from present dangers, anticipating your future circumstances, warning you of problems which lie on the horizon, explaining the meaning of things, and bringing the kind of relief that is right for the situation in which you find yourself; someone who is qualified not just to offer you advice but to give you real help—this is the type of individual in whom you will feel confidence. Indeed, anyone who seeks advice from such a man might put it like this: "And if dreadful things befall me on his account, I bear them." (Eccl 22: 26)
In what follows (c. 43–60) Ambrose gives Scriptural examples of those who gave good advices – Solomon, Joseph, and David.
61. But then again, who would ask assistance from an individual if, however well–equipped he might be to give advice, he remained difficult to approach? Someone like that is like a spring of water with its channels all sealed up. What advantage is there in possessing wisdom, if you refuse to give advice? If you shut off every opportunity for anyone to get your advice, you have closed off a spring, so that it neither flows to others nor does you any good yourself.
62. The same could equally well be said of a person who possesses prudence but pollutes it with the filth of various vices, and so contaminates the water at its source. It is people's lives that provide evidence that their hearts are degenerate. How can you consider a man to be better than you when it comes to giving advice if you see that he is worse than you when it comes to morality? If I am going to entrust myself to someone, he has to be a better man than I am. Am I really to think that someone is fit to give advice to me when he evidently does not give it to himself, and am I really to believe that he has time for me when he evidently does not have time for himself—when it is quite clear that his mind is taken up with sensual pleasures, or controlled by desire, or a slave to greed, or driven mad with desire, or shaken rigid by fear? How can there be any place for the giving of advice where there is none for calmness of spirit?
(trans. Davidson 2001: 299-303)